Welcoming the Un-Welcomed

WELCOMING THE UN-WELCOMED

One should live in the Hope of becoming a Memory! – Antonio Porcha

After pondering for quite some time and having two minds on if I should write on this (SAD) topic or not, I finally gave in and decided to pen it down. As a writer, my attempt is obviously to interest readers and never leave them with a gloomy feeling, however on the other hand this blog is about my personal views and so I guess I would prefer to vent out ideas, thoughts and my say on any topic that I feel like sharing!

Recently having watched the video of Zach Sobiech (My Last few days) which has gone viral over YouTube and all the other possible social sites where he shares his experience of welcoming and coming to terms with his death is one of the very few videos which I have seen and has inspired me towards living life.  I am sure we all have gone through similar other videos in our lifetime and we sympathize, get teary eyed, feel sad but eventually move on. One never sits to think or wishes to believe that what if you were that person, or what if you ever had a situation like that to deal with. No one ever told us or promised that Life is going to be a cake walk but somewhere in each of us, there lies hope and faith that we all will get up to happier days and a better living.

Personally, I have always been critical about life and usually like to live it with a pinch of salt. Some of my friends and family usually sneer at me to stop being negative about life. But when you sit and think about the same, it proves to be more practical of accepting life as it is and expecting both – good and bad out of it. The topic or thought of death is something which is absurdly scary and reflects negativity which no one usually is ready to face or give into. However, I guess I have always felt the need to give it a thought, think about it and mentally prepare oneself in any small manner of dealing with it. I am sure there will be a whole lot of my readers who might disagree and I am totally fine with it. (It’s just my opinion, not a compulsion for you all to do)

Life is something which is given to us when we are born and Death is something which is given to us when we die. Both are equally natural and happen for a reason. No one knows why you are the one who was born amongst the 40 other million possibilities of another baby instead of you and no one even knows why you are supposed to die instead of the zillion other people in the world. If we are so comfortable about the birth of a human being, we need to be acceptable to the fact that people leave us at some point of time and no one can have a say over that.

Having lost a dear friend in an unfortunate accident couple of years ago, which was my first experience to the death, something I wish which should have never happen, it took me long to accept and come to terms with the fact. I guess we never fully accept it because there is a part of that person which remains in us and our lives which we keep within ourselves forever and never let go of.  Life is long and is short as well, it depends on the way we live it. But I guess when we all accept that Life comes in packages which include a whole lot of uncertainty, it is best to believe in happiness, live up to our own thoughts, spread love around, accept life and death as a process and create a world of yourself which you comfortably leave behind for each of your dear one!   

P.S. – For those of you who haven’t seen the Video.

Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NjKgV65fpo

Being Thankful

BEING THANKFUL 

You won't be happy with more until you're happy with what you've got - Viki-King

Being comparatively free and with ample of time to do things I like, personally resorted to one of my favorite  hobbies - Movies ! Yes, I am a movie-buff and can sit all day and watch any and every kind of movie under the sun :) Browsing through a list of typical Bollywood oldies (obviously not black and white), I weirdly chose a cold, dark and heart-breaking movie which has ironically won a zillion awards - BLACK. 

Having seen the movie a couple of times and being teary-eyed through it every single time I watch it,  suddenly it struck me what a handicapped individual might go through on a daily basis and how thankful should I personally be for being able to possess the basic senses that we all usually take for granted. Moving ahead with the same thoughts in mind, pondering over similar incidents - I began to think how beautiful Life is in all its simple ways and how much we all have - in small and big ways to be thankful for. I personally weigh the word #thanks #thank-you #thankful as words being associated with gratitude, satisfaction and appreciation.

It is impossible for a person to not have anything in life that he / she is not thankful for or about. Being a social-bee and a person who likes talking to people (I like my Me-Time as well), with every day in and out, I come across people (includes me) talking to about their lives, some problems, certain expectations, career issues, relationships, fights, thoughts and various other things. Going through these conversations in my mind, there is a minimal percentage of the talk which revolves around how happy or thankful either of us have been to the Universe for making us hearty and healthy, for bringing us into the world, for being able-enough to reach where we all are and for giving us Life that someone somewhere in the world Craves for. 

It is definitely not wrong or bad to wish , hope and ask for better. But it is definitely more important to be thankful and grateful for what we have and are as individuals and together as the world. With our lives being more packed, less time for ourselves, more time to think about what we need rather than what we require or have, it is necessary to count our blessings - even the small petty things that we take for granted. Take a minute and think about it, the list will go on and you ll be surprised that you have more things to be thankful for rather than what you crave for. 

Life is too short to hope, think and wish - its better to make-do, live and be content :) 

Happ -Y- Ness

The purpose of our lives is to be Happy - Dalai Lama

It has been long since I have written and now that I have been away for a while, my blog is pleading me to come back ! (Thanks to the endless Study load :) Amidst the few busy and tiring weeks that I have had, times when I wanted to shoot myself (literally), I found moments of "Happiness" through the haunting hours of work ! 

Being a person who always assumes and expects Reality rather than Fantasy, it turns out difficult to find happiness all the time.  Sigh ! Well, now I have learnt it after being thrown into   'Reality' where one has only two options: Sit & Sulk or Get up & Be Happy, I think I have resorted to the latter which at the least brings a smile onto my face as compared to sitting and bugging up yourself. 

My post's title is 'Happ-Y-Ness', a capital Y in middle which I intend to stress on. Why is it so necessary to be happy and content with yourself and the world around you? Why should we always smile? Why should we always be positive? 

Happiness has its own versions and different definitions for each one of us. For me, happiness is in the small little and everyday things that we do for ourselves and one another. Helping someone, being concerned and as a well wisher, wishing good for everyone, living life on your minute terms and conditions, doing things that make you and people around smile, giving your time to someone who needs you and spending time with yourself is something which brings happiness to me. It might sound cliched or poetic, but material gifts are something which brings happiness for the time-being and for a span of time which is not bad, but saying a few words, expressing love and concern to someone is something they remember and keep for a lifetime.  

The phrase 'Smile - It costs nothing' stands absolutely and perfectly epic which is something that I have started believing in. When in doubt and under pressure, times when you feel you are crashing down and nothing can bring you up, is when all you need to do is Smile. Even if it doesn't solve your problem, it gives you a subconscious strength to face the facts. This is one of the smallest and best trick to a happier way of living life which I have personally learnt from a close Friend (no names *winkie*).  

Time is something which is ticking along and is still constant. Moving on and growing bigger and better is what we all aspire to do, but being content with what we have, accepting facts and working hard to be a better person is what 'Happy' people do. 

Any age, any gender and any race - when they smile, they look Beautiful ! Keep Smiling :)