The Twisted Right

The Twisted Right

" Right is right even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it” 

What is the definition of 'Right' ? - I have pondered over that for quite a while now and have come to understand that every person has their own customized version of being right or feeling right. There is no specific or general definition of what is right and what is wrong. At times, even the most wrong things and wrong doings are absolutely right for the person who is doing and feeling it. 

Faced with a million choices in our lifetime and a few everyday, we are expected to choose from the ones given to us. Sometimes it is easy and sometimes it feels like you ll never be able to get through it. With the human body designed in a particular way with two major organs : the heart and the brain. Both being equally important to us but ironically, ones that work together in two separate ways makes it difficult to come to a conclusion. Choices made either depend on your heart's calling or your brain's order. There are very few decisions which are in complete sync of the both and where you are completely happy whole heartedly and with all your mind.  

Having faced with many such situations where I have needed a heart and mind to work together, I have personally chose to listen to both and come to a decision which is Right and Fruitful. Such situations are never easy and no one comes out alive in a happy manner. A part of you always remains onto the other side - the side which you did not choose. But as a rule of fact, when you do the right thing, it hurts everyone or affects everything less in the longer run. Ironically, emotions make us take a right decision only for that moment of time and the practical side of us takes a right decision for the rest of our lives. 

You can view it either way, depends on what you feel is Right! : ) 

Love Yourself

Love Yourself

When is the last time you actually did something solely for yourself without and incy bit of thought where you gave in to how people would think or how will your partner feel or is it right or questioned yourself ? 

It is absolutely normal to feel all of the above and if you are one born and brought up in a country like India, the thought of considering the impact of your personal decision on the society has always held more weight as compared to what you actually want to do ! 

I come across people who I know and some of whom are acquaintances, most of all who breathe in and breathe out decisions about their daily life on the basis of how others think and feel rather than how they themselves internalize it. It is a good thing as far as it doesn't harm a portion of your personal growth or hinders with your personal happiness.

On a personal front, I am the soft Indian girl too who gives a lot of consideration to many of my decisions and its impact on my family and friends. However, a boundary of my personal life lies within me which I do not let anyone enter or harm as it is the small little piece of meat that I own solely for myself.

People of all genders and ages are least content with how their life is spent and is on a constant urge of improving themselves or cribbing about how things can get better. How about spending a day with yourself and accepting yourself for the way you are and so is the society. Being happy in your own skin is an easy task and which everybody can possess, it just needs to be given thought an that extra push ! 

P.S - Love Yourself else No one else will.

The Changed Person

The Changed Person

Sincere and Genuine apologies to all my readers for being the procrastinating freak who took five odd months to sit down and write. 

The interesting thing to note is how much these five months have moved me to reflect, understand and realize how much things have changed and the amount to which I have grown. With the last post and the last me writing (in August 2013) - placed in UK as a student whose worldly pressures were different, outlook to every new day was vague and the persistent thoughts of returning to my motherland which was immensely overwhelming. 

Having moved back to India - my motherland, the place which I am closely attached in every possible manner, the happiness knew no bounds. The first few weeks had been hazy with the overflowing emotions of my closed ones and the warm smell of home. As time passed, when home wasn't my comfort zone anymore, when time came for me to fly away again to my most favorite city - Mumbai which has always given me so much happiness and equally a lot of pain is where I landed quietly. The streets welcomed me as they had always done, however with minor changes which proved big when people who I knew became a memory and the city appeared like a totally new brand place. How blessed I am to find shiny new elements in the city who come to make me believe that Mumbai takes away a lot but always gives you back something memorable in return. Fortunately having gained new pillars in the city, the place seems different, more encouraging, worthy and livelier than ever ! The thing to remember is that you get what you are worth, and I think I deserve better which I will get.

Reflecting back to last year, one of the toughest years till date - UK has been one of the best teachers, it gave me lot of love with a pinch of salt. When you let go of things and people, you loose a part of yourself that you had given them, but you definitely gain a new space inside you to welcome better things that you are worth of. It happened to me and it ll happen to you as well. 

P.S. - The only thing that heals best is Time ! : ) 

Cheers,

K

Self-less Love

Self-less Love

The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional - Stephen Kendrick

A midst a busy and hectic schedule of working on my thesis, I have found the time to procrastinate and resort to some blogging. Personally, having spent quality time with myself this year and having being involved into relations of all kinds, may it be through a friend, a colleague, family or dear ones – it astounds me to see the difference of understanding of ‘loving unconditionally’ between the age groups of my parents as compared to my generation.

Being an individual of the current century, however with certain views percolating to how an elder era thinks is something I choose. When I see an old couple together is when I realize and understand how love can actually be or how it can turn out! Dating back to the years of my grandparent’s marriage and trickling down to my parent’s 30 years of togetherness, I wonder if I would be able to pull off such a strong base.

We all fall in love at some point in time, may be with the right or wrong person – but we all definitely do and there is no substitute to that feeling. In days that we live, where everything has conditions, so does relations. Where personal gains are chosen more than the idea of togetherness, where ‘I’ come before ‘We’ are ideas that my generation face these days. It seems impossible sometimes to find a person who can actually stick around no matter what or just be themselves with their partners.

I envy the older generations who gave up their liking  their personal lives and compromised a whole lot just to be together. It definitely takes a lot of guts, compassion, mental stability and faith in the other person to do so. Having my mother, be one of the biggest examples who is a foreigner (Trinidad & Tobago), got married to my Dad (Indian) and left all her luxuries and traditions to settle down in a town of India which is completely a different world together is happily married for over 30 years now. I have surprisingly never seen or heard her question anything. On the other hand, my Dad being the most supportive human beings, gave in, encouraged her and most importantly loved her unconditionally so that she never felt away from Home.

Marriage is a beautiful bond between two people who are blessed to spend the rest of their life together. Loving blindly is not something which anyone should opt for, but loving unconditionally is a feeling which is gifted to us as human beings. Personally, not being married or with any experience of how marriages could be or get, I can only hope, wish and have faith to find my soul-mate on the other side who I can assure to be a ‘We’ and an ‘Us’ rather than a ‘You’ and a ‘Me’. 

Give In & Let it Go.

GIVE IN & LET IT GO. 

Be strong enough to let go & patient enough to wait for what you deserve. 

I must say that I am stuck up in a terrible phase of Procrastination and only God can help me out with this one. Likewise, through this phase - Blogging seems to be one of the most productive things I opt to do over focusing on my Masters Dissertation. (God Save Me)

Stumbling upon an interesting article of what we should let go in Life in order to be Happy - sounded like an interesting title and urged me to read through. It is ironical to understand that Letting go of anything or anyone  in order to make you Happy. It has never been an easy task and it takes up a lot of mental strength and a bucket full of emotions to wail through such phases and situations in life. But practically it holds true and is definitely beneficial for us to give in to few things in life while you let go of others - no matter how precious they seem to you. 

While we grow up, no one teaches any of us to be selfish or only to be self-obsessed but eventually we all turn out to become such individuals. In the greed of wanting to own everything or have the best in life we all forget and take a slip on understanding or putting others before ourselves. Being selfless is not easy as it includes a lot of compromise, understanding, love and concern - sometimes for a person and sometimes for your own self.

Personally having been through such phases where unfortunately I opted to think solely for myself, by not bothering about how the person with me feels or thinks - I have taken decisions which I am sure must have been difficult for them. We all make mistakes and grow up to learn what is better which applies to me as well. Progressing to become more giving in to situations and letting go of what will not help me grow as an individual is something I have learnt. Shunning off negativity is always a task because it has its way to creep into life. It is important to stay positive while understanding that everything happens for a reason, we may not completely know why - but the Universe knows what its doing ! 

Humans are not perfect and so obviously our lives will never be perfect like an ending of a romantic movie. Life is all about the journeys we travel, the paths we choose and the decisions we take. Some are good and some are bad, but that is where we all learn from. Trying to do something for someone, being there for someone who needs you, spending money on a needy person rather than shopping, being kind and open-hearted, trying to be a good listener and most importantly putting yourself in someone else's shoes and then looking at the situation are a few things - if adapted by all of us, the world and our life will be a happier place ! :) 

P.S : The Article I read about which motivated me to share my thoughts :            http://elitedaily.com/life/20s-things-you-need-to-let-go-to-live-happy-life/ 

The Part of Life called UNCERTAINTY

 The Part of Life called UNCERTAINTY

It is better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot – Anatole France

It has been quite a while since I have written and posted anything. Having being submerged into a world of mine which only includes me and my thoughts, dreams and aspirations about life and the way it functions, I have tend to realize that Life is a funny journey.

We all pass through certain stages in life where we all stand at cross-roads. In some cases we choose the path and in others Life chooses one for us. It is a fortunate journey of fate, destiny, hope and faith which keeps us going. Many times we stumble upon choices in life, all of them being equally important, dear and ones that we do not wish to let go. Choosing either one doesn't guarantee you happiness for a lifetime, it is purely the instinct, feelings and hope with how we choose our options and move on in Life.

If you are reading my post, you are gifted to be given a life which is luxurious enough as compared to people who struggle for food and basic necessities. Everyone’s life is full of different uncertainties and so should everyone live with a pinch of positivity that their life will take the right turn which will be full of happiness.

Making choices has never been an easy way out and it never will be. Sometimes God throws options at us, both wrong and right ones and guide us with an instinct as to which one to follow. Choosing the wrong one is not bad; it will merely be a mistake that you will learn from.  

I personally reflect my life as a bundle of options which were thrown at me, from which I choose and live on with it whole-heartedly. I am happy that all the choices I have made till today are ones that I have never regretted on. I wish and hope that I continue to make the right and strong choices in life which leads me to become a happier person with an even more fruitful life.

So with all the uncertainty and options that we all pass through and no matter how cliché it may sound, but when you follow your heart – you can never go wrong. With all the assumptions we make in life about others, ourselves and life we should try and be happy & thankful for what we have, follow our instincts and guts to what we want and brush off the mistakes we made. It’s never too late!

Hope & Faith

Hope & Faith

When one door closes, another opens ! 

Being occupied a midst a lot of travelling and exploring, I apologize to not be regular in my writing. Now that I have resorted to some 'me-time' and into a comfortably numb world of mine, it seems like a pleasure to share a few thoughts.  

As mentioned before, I have been living a nomadic life, away from home for the past couple of years and each year has been special in the way I have grown and my outlook towards life. Its almost my seventh year of handling life on my own terms and facing the world as it comes. The experience has been exciting with all its ups and downs and I am proud to be able to sustain through it. All of it seems like yesterday and just a start but I know that I yet have a long way to go and I am sure it is going to be thrilling. 

We all go through phases and stages in life which seem uncertain, blocked and time seems to have stand still and stagnant. There are good things and bad things that happen and we all stammer and linger around with different thoughts and ways of dealing with it. Life being as unpredictable as it can be, it is best to take it with a pinch of salt and accept it the way it is thrown at us. Personally having faced various dilemmas throughout my journey and times spent in different cities and different people, I have learnt that sometimes it is best to not question, not think but merely accept the situation, breathe and let go. I must say that it is definitely not easy to let go and move on, it never has been but in the end - it is the most fruitful and best option chosen. (Tried & Tested)

At times, we all feel that why is it us and why only me?But you never know what the person beside you is going through. We need to stop pitying ourselves, wake up, believe that we are good and keep our spirits high. The world is full of negative things and people to always bring us down, it merely depends on the life you choose and the people you want to be with. We all make bad choices at some point and regret it, feel horrible and ponder over it endlessly. Why waste time when there are a million other choices to make, enjoy life and work towards making it more beautiful. We can never have everything we want, so it is best to enjoy what we have, appreciate the time we have got and keep faith in the Universe that everything happens for a reason. 

Life is a journey and it is best that we start writing beautiful chapters so when we look back, it all seems worth it!